Do you ever get the feeling that "something is missing" even when nothing is? And if it's sudden arrival isn't unfortunate enough, it over stays it's welcome. It lingers deep in your chest eating away at your core. It's something so many of us often face. Something we actively try to escape and avoid. This feeling is called loneliness. So what's the magic cure for this dreaded emotion that threatens our sense of belonging? It's ritual. This TED Talk hit such a truth within me. The times in my life when I felt most connected and the least alone was not when I had the busiest social life, but when I had a consistent ritual.
In my undergrad it was Wednesday Girl's Nights- no matter what, come hell or high water a group of us girls would meet together on Wednesday. No exceptions.
Then, several years later it was Friday Theme Nights. No matter what. My dearest college friend and I would pick out a movie and a uniquely themed recipe to go with it. It was our ritual.
So fast forward to now. I realized I am lacking ritual. I have more friends today than I've had at any other time in my life. But I have no ritual. And with that, the loneliness sometimes finds a way to creep in. I have the answer. I know the antidote. I must create my ritual again.